10 Tips to Help You Talk to Your Teen About Abstinence
Listen and then give information. Let them tell you what they have heard, or ask you questions, then calmly communicate your beliefs and standards.
Don't Fight! Be open and assertive about your beliefs without being confrontational.
Do your homework. Find as much information as you can about this subject. If you can't answer their questions, they will find someone who can.
Give consistent messages and be an example. The standard should be the same for all children in the household, and for the adults as well.
You don't have to know it all. Search for information together if there is a question you can't answer.
Find the right moment. Look for openings to discuss the subject of sex together. Have many casual conversations about the subject rather than one "Big Talk".
Be confident. Your children need to see security and maturity from you, not timidity and nervousness.
Be the first sex educator for your children. It is the primary responsibility of parents, not schools and not the media, to educate the next generation about sex.
Talk often and openly about your values. Your conversations should begin around the age of 10. You should be able to share factual information as well as your opinions and values.
Trust your children. Let them know you believe they can wait.